More Q&As for Ask a Drag Queen!
Hey, y’all! I’m back — taking a break from summer pool parties and drag shows to answer some of your interesting and entertaining questions. I asked for them, and y’all delivered! I got a butt-load filling my in-box — many from curious Misters asking about the tucking thing again. Please see my first column from just one month ago — you people are tucking crazy! Maybe I should do a tucking infomercial. Any volunteers? I will tuck ya. Tuck the hell out of ya.
Here is the first question.
Dearest Cassie, I know your husband is supportive of your career. Were you already together when you first started? Has he always been so supportive? Has it ever been difficult for him in any way or has he ever hoped you had another line of work? Just curious, Marc McWhorter
Great question Mr. McWhorter. I met my husband Jamie about 14 years ago in the Rose Room at one of my shows. It took him three years to ask me out. On our first date, we saw a movie (Dreamcatcher) and ate at Red Lobster cuz we are fancy like that. That night changed my life. We have been together ever since. He has always been supportive of my career. The drag thing has never been an issue for him because he knew what he was in for when we met. It takes a real man to date a drag queen. I am the luckiest girlie boy in the world. As Phoebe from Friends might say, “He’s my lobster.”
Dearest Cassie, I’m a straight female who is a strong advocate for equal rights as well as a follower of the Christian faith, though I do not go to church at this time. Also, my mothers-in-law are lesbians. Recently, a coworker told me I am not a Christian because of my belief in equal rights for both women and LGBTQ people. I told my boss I didn’t want to be scheduled to work alongside this person anymore. I am worried, however, that when I do see this person again, I will be forced to interact with them. Any advice on what I should say or do? Thanks in advance! Xoxo, Holding my tongue
Damn, girl. Where do you work — Hobby Lobby? Thank you for being on the right side of history. Our community could use a lot more peeps like you. Now, about this person at work: Have you ever heard the expression, “Bless your heart”? True Southerners know what that really means. Just throw a good ol’ “bless your heart” at the hater and walk away. People like that are not looking to change their ways or their way of thinking, they are trying to be confrontational. Stick to your beliefs and rise above. With much respect and thanks, Cassie Nova.
Dearest Cassie Nova, I have never been a big fan of the Dallas gay scene, with the exception of going to see you perform at S4. Most of my friends are straight and I have a tough time meeting guys, unless on apps like Grindr, Scruff, Growlr, Jack!d, etc. Ninety-nine percent of the time, I won’t meet any guy off those apps because I prefer to date someone seriously before we jump in bed (or the bed of my truck, or wherever). I am very attracted to bears, wolves and otters but essentially have no idea where I can actually meet these guys, have a drink, and just get to know each other. Do you have any suggestions for me? Are there actual gay men in the DFW that want something more than an occasional hook up? Please give me some advice. Thanks, Jake
Dear Jake,
Thanks for being a fan. I appreciate it. The best advice I can give you is to put yourself out there more — but not necessarily at the bars. Join DIVA, the Dallas Independent Volleyball Association or the gay softball league, Pegasus. Go to any of the Texas Gay Rodeo Association events. There are men everywhere — nice, masculine, hairy men on horses. There are lots of great organizations around town to join and socialize. Or just check out Lee Park on a Sunday afternoon. The point is to be around guys with similar interests. People have been meeting people long before we needed an app to do it.
Dearest Cassie, If you wrote an autobiography, what would the title be? Layne.
Well Layne, some of the Rose Room cast and I were talking about that recently. My life story would be called You Know What You Should Do?, because my deluded self thinks I always know best and force my “wisdom” on others. For the record, Edna Jean Robinson’s autobiography would be called Unintentionally Messy and Layla Larue’s would be I Was Mindin’ My Own Business When… That book would be a bestseller — the bitch has got stories that would make you blush. Kelexis Davenport’s would only be sold in the adult section and titled, Why Do My Knees Hurt? Thanks, Cassie
I would now like to call out some of my fellow drag queens. Bitches, get your own jokes. If you are gonna use my monologues, don’t use them verbatim! Damn! They say that imitation is the sincerest form of flattery. Well, flatter me with a percentage of your tips. If you think this read is about you, it probably is. XOXO, Cassie.
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This article appeared in the Dallas Voice print edition July 11, 2014.
