Lots of groups are looking to raise some money this weekend, from the Dallas Bears holding a poker tourney that benefits AIN on Saturday at The Brick. to a fundraiser for the Mr. Texas Leather Travel Fund on Sunday at the Dallas Eagle. But you don’t have to do go — in fact, you might wanna get a little naughty.

Trans porn star Buck Angel is one of the guests at this weekend’ Beyond Vanilla, the 22nd weekend of kink. That takes place at the host hotel, Downtown’s Crowne Plaza, this weekend; then starting on Thursday, the hotel turns over but continues to stay gay with the opening of Dallas Southern Pride. It begins with the B/HAP conference and the Ms. Dallas Southern Pride pageant.

For something less kinky but no less edgy, check out the Dallas VideoFest at the Dallas Museum of Art all weekend, which boasts a substantial gay video program, including a documentary about the Beat Generation, including Alan Ginsberg and his lover Peter Orlofsky, pictured.  Or cross the Arts District to see gay choreographer Doug Varone’s new recital at the Winspear, or the final weeks of The Second City Does Dallas at the Wyly.

Of course, the State Fair commences today, but if you can wait until Tuesday, you can also see the opening night of The Addams Family, this year’s State Fair musical. (And this just in: The Lexus Broadway series will include The Book of Mormon for its 2013–14 season; dates will be announced in January.)

Finally, we started a new weekly online-only advice column this week, Tex’n the City. Check it out.